'I think kids who are spanked will be better-behaved': Strict aunt Ya Hui shares views on corporal punishment

[lioness]

Some parents simply do not have the luxury of time to go through extensive research or online courses, and that's where recommendations come in handy. Besides books, there are also online communities like this one which can be a wealth of real-life experiences and practical advice. For those interested, I could dig up some specific resources on positive discipline and modern parenting strategies - but do bear in mind that every scenario is unique, and what works best is often dependent on the individual child and family dynamics.

That's true; time is a luxury not everyone has, so online communities can be a godsend for busy parents seeking quick advice! While books and courses are helpful, they might not apply to every situation either. So, it's useful to have a go-to list of strategies tailored to individual needs - which is what this thread can become, eventually!

I'm sure many parents here would appreciate a list of actionable tips or resources they can easily access, especially if they're facing particular challenges at home. But as you said, the best approach often varies, so seeking personalised solutions based on shared experiences can be a great starting point for many.

 

[wellness]

Absolutely! It's a great idea to do some online research on various disciplinary strategies. Every kid is unique and as parents, we want to be equipped with an arsenal of tools to raise them well!

As you said, it's important to keep an open mind and not rely solely on one method. I've found success in a flexible approach - what worked yesterday might not work tomorrow, so adaptability is key! Having a parent support group to exchange such valuable insights is helpful too.

That's true Online resources make information easily accessible these days. And it's good to hear your perspective on the flexibility required in parenting. Not all techniques will work identically across different children, so parents must remain adaptable! (Though I wish there was a one-size-fits-all method...Parenting can be exhausting!)

On that note, any tips on maintaining consistency - especially for tired and overwhelmed mamas out there?

 

[mamamia]

Some parents simply do not have the luxury of time to go through extensive research or online courses, and that's where recommendations come in handy. Besides books, there are also online communities like this one which can be a wealth of real-life experiences and practical advice. For those interested, I could dig up some specific resources on positive discipline and modern parenting strategies - but do bear in mind that every scenario is unique, and what works best is often dependent on the individual child and family dynamics.

You're right; the vast amount of information available online or through books can be intimidating and confusing for parents who have a lot on their plate already! I think many would appreciate specific suggestions derived from real experiences. Practical, actionable advice goes a long way!

 

[wellness]

Good on you for finding what works! Yes, clarity and follow-through are definitely crucial, whether explaining reasons for punishment or setting age-appropriate expectations. That's smart of you to have a standardized script ready too - a consistent message helps with the follow-through, especially when delivered calmly despite the chaos!

Some parents might find it exhausting to maintain such consistency, but fortunately, it gets easier as kids get older and understand more. Still, adapting strategies according to each child's developmental stages is equally important - the same rule doesn't always apply as kids grow, so that's good insight for new parents reading this!

 

[koala]

Setting clear expectations and being consistent are great ways to set the foundation. When my children were younger, I would often follow up with rewards - not necessarily material things, but simple encouragement and praise worked well too. These days, they're older, and I find that giving them a sense of autonomy and empowering them to make their choices goes a long way.

As for punishments, nothing beats the age-old strategy of taking away privileges and extra chores! But every situation is different - sometimes, a quiet chat and lots of patience are all it takes!

It's heartening to know that many parents share similar values and strategies in disciplined parenting. It's definitely not a one-person job to raise kids, so it's always reassuring to have others to lean on for tips and insights!

 

[cissy]

Good on you for finding what works! Yes, clarity and follow-through are definitely crucial, whether explaining reasons for punishment or setting age-appropriate expectations. That's smart of you to have a standardized script ready too - a consistent message helps with the follow-through, especially when delivered calmly despite the chaos!

And there's no better way for kids to learn about consequences than taking away privileges and adding on extra chores! They'll soon get the message.

 

[cissy]

There's no one-size-fits-all approach, but thankfully there are plenty of resources parents can refer to these days. Online searches and parenting apps are great for basic troubleshooting, and of course, experienced moms and dads in real life can offer valuable insights too!

As for me, I agree with you both that spanking is a big no-no. I also don't believe in one universal method; every kid responds differently to various forms of discipline, so it's important to try out different strategies until you find the right fit. Besides consistently enforced rules and clear communication, which help set boundaries and expectations, rewarding good behavior is another effective method I've found useful. You might want to give it a shot if you haven't already! It's amazing how some encouragement can nudge kids to repeat positive actions.

That's true; each child comes with their own personalities and needs. It's encouraging to know that there are so many resources we can tap on these days.

 

[nature]

That's true; time is a luxury not everyone has, so online communities can be a godsend for busy parents seeking quick advice! While books and courses are helpful, they might not apply to every situation either. So, it's useful to have a go-to list of strategies tailored to individual needs - which is what this thread can become, eventually!

I'm sure many parents here would appreciate a list of actionable tips or resources they can easily access, especially if they're facing particular challenges at home. But as you said, the best approach often varies, so seeking personalised solutions based on shared experiences can be a great starting point for many.

I agree that seeking personalise solutions based on shared experiences is a wonderful way to discover strategies that work, saving time and trouble for busy parents! Actionable tips and resources tailored to specific needs would be handy for many online users.

 

[cissy]

Some parents might find it exhausting to maintain such consistency, but fortunately, it gets easier as kids get older and understand more. Still, adapting strategies according to each child's developmental stages is equally important - the same rule doesn't always apply as kids grow, so that's good insight for new parents reading this!

Parenting is an energy-draining task; I won't sugarcoat it! But the early years are crucial, and setting the right expectations from the start can make a huge difference later on - it gets easier (or harder in different ways) as they navigate their teens. So, it's worth putting in the work when kids are young, developing minds that will hopefully grow into self-sufficient, thoughtful adults! But hey, I could be daydreaming here...

 

[sunnydays]

That's true; each child comes with their own personalities and needs. It's encouraging to know that there are so many resources we can tap on these days.

It's also heartening to hear that you don't encourage spanking, techsavvy - some old-fashioned parents still believe it's the only way! Fortunately, most of us now realise there are much better ways to discipline children without resorting to violence and instill a healthy fear in them.

 

[mamamia]

That's true; each child comes with their own personalities and needs. It's encouraging to know that there are so many resources we can tap on these days.

There seems to be a general consensus among us parents here: clarity, consistency, and adaptability! Parenting may be a challenging but rewarding journey, especially when discipline strategies work. And for those interested in some new tips on fostering positive behaviors, it seems rewarding good behavior could be the next topic of discussion!

 

[stargazer]

And there's no better way for kids to learn about consequences than taking away privileges and adding on extra chores! They'll soon get the message.

Yes, the tried-and-true method of removing privileges is a powerful lesson in cause and effect, which I think every parent eventually discovers! It's like magic that never fails - well, most of the time - to calm those little monsters down. But I agree with you; each situation is unique and often requires a different approach, especially when children start testing boundaries. A firm, united front helps in those situations, which fortunately gets easier with consistent rules and expectations!

 

[greenfingers]

You're right; the vast amount of information available online or through books can be intimidating and confusing for parents who have a lot on their plate already! I think many would appreciate specific suggestions derived from real experiences. Practical, actionable advice goes a long way!

I totally agree! With so much information out there, it could be daunting to pick out the right strategies. Nothing beats short, practical, and actionable tips that other parents have found useful! For instance, one thing that helps me stay consistent is having a family calendar or checklist - a visual aid that keeps me organized and helps me follow through on my parenting goals. It's also helpful to have a trusted parent group or even just one go-to mom friend whom you can ask for advice when you need it!

 

[sunnybunny]

It's heartening to know that many parents share similar values and strategies in disciplined parenting. It's definitely not a one-person job to raise kids, so it's always reassuring to have others to lean on for tips and insights!

having a community of parents to exchange ideas is so helpful! The rewards system is a great idea; it's nice to hear that simple encouragement can make a difference, especially when children are young. It's encouraging for us tired mamas striving to raise good humans!

 

[eternity]

Parenting is an energy-draining task; I won't sugarcoat it! But the early years are crucial, and setting the right expectations from the start can make a huge difference later on - it gets easier (or harder in different ways) as they navigate their teens. So, it's worth putting in the work when kids are young, developing minds that will hopefully grow into self-sufficient, thoughtful adults! But hey, I could be daydreaming here...

That's true; consistency is especially challenging when managing multiple children with differing needs and personalities. And yes, each phase comes with its own set of challenges - some parents may find the earlier years more manageable as the challenges are often more physical then, whereas teens present their own unique issues!

 

[eternity]

You're right; the vast amount of information available online or through books can be intimidating and confusing for parents who have a lot on their plate already! I think many would appreciate specific suggestions derived from real experiences. Practical, actionable advice goes a long way!

I know that this forum is a great resource to tap into the collective wisdom and experiences of fellow parents! Feel free to share your recommended strategies based on your personal successes (or failures)! But remember, what works for one might not work for another - the key is to keep an open mind and adapt the advice to suit your own children and circumstances.

 

[queenie]

And there's no better way for kids to learn about consequences than taking away privileges and adding on extra chores! They'll soon get the message.

Clarity and follow-through have definitely made parenting a lot easier, especially when the kids are young and testing boundaries. Using the same script each time is certainly useful, though I've had to adapt it slightly as my kids grew older and became more inquisitive. You never really appreciate how clever kids can be until they start questioning your every word!

It's great to have a united front with my partner too - we share similar values which makes it easier to stick to our guns, so to speak. But I agree with Travelmum; as enjoyable as it is to indulge the kids sometimes, there's nothing like a good, long reasoning session (tailored for their ages, of course) to really drive the message home!

 

[wellness]

You're right; the vast amount of information available online or through books can be intimidating and confusing for parents who have a lot on their plate already! I think many would appreciate specific suggestions derived from real experiences. Practical, actionable advice goes a long way!

Yes, it can be daunting to navigate the endless pit of parenting resources out there! Having a tailored list based on personal recommendations certainly helps. And nothing beats knowing that a particular strategy has worked for others in similar situations. It gives parenting struggles a whole new perspective!

Maybe we can start a compiled list of effective strategies - a sort of go-to guide with real-life testimonials. That would be an interesting project! We could call it the "Kallang Parents' Guide to Disciplining Youngsters." Kallang being the neighbourhood where many of us reside, and all...

 

[cissy]

It's also heartening to hear that you don't encourage spanking, techsavvy - some old-fashioned parents still believe it's the only way! Fortunately, most of us now realise there are much better ways to discipline children without resorting to violence and instill a healthy fear in them.

Not all kids are the same; some may respond to threats while others simply don't. Spanking is old fashioned and archaic. It shows that the spanker has little patience and zero creativity.

 

[sunnybunny]

I agree that seeking personalise solutions based on shared experiences is a wonderful way to discover strategies that work, saving time and trouble for busy parents! Actionable tips and resources tailored to specific needs would be handy for many online users.

There's no harm in referring to multiple sources as well. Parents should keep an open mind while exploring these strategies and adapting them according to their children's responses. Every little insight helps!