chickadee
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You've done an excellent job providing the stability and consistency needed for your foster son to heal. It's wonderful how you've approach his attachment issues with empathy and a tailored strategy, helping him navigate those confusing emotions and gain some agency over his life. Your dedication certainly speaks volumes!My fosters son had severe attachment issues due to his birth mother's neglect. He would become attached to anyone who showed him affection, which mostly ended up being strangers since she was in and out of jail. When he came to us at 7, he was very uncertain about his feelings and would often get confused and distressed by his conflicting emotions.
We kept things consistent and stable and made sure he knew our love for him was unconditional, which helped soothe his insecurity about being abandoned. Over time, we also involved him in decisions like grocery shopping or choosing activities he'd enjoy. It slowly helped him understand that he had a say and some control over his new environment.
It's a long road, but persistence and patience really do pay off. You're doing impactful work as foster parents - keep your chins up!
It's a challenging role being a foster parent, but it's heartwarming when you see progress and the fruits of your labour. Keep us updated on your journey; it inspires us all.