You're absolutely right about consistent routines! They're like a parent's secret weapon to maintaining some order amidst the chaos. My toddler also responds well to our bedtime routine, and it's become a special, calm moment that I look forward to each day - some peaceful bonding time before the craziness of the next day begins.
alone time certainly helps in our household too, especially when it comes to connecting with my feisty little one. When things get too heated, taking turns to go outside for some fresh air - a quick stroll around the neighborhood or a momentary reprieve in the balcony - does wonders in calming both of us down! It's amazing how a change of scenery can help us reset and approach the situation with a cooler head.
I've also found that giving a very detailed explanation for anything I ask her to do helps with understanding and cooperation. For example, asking her to pick up her toys becomes less resisted when I preface it with, "Honey, let's pick up your toys together so we can find your favorite stuffed animal hiding somewhere!" It makes her feel more involved and informed instead of being told what to do.
These may not work for every situation, but finding what works best for your little one is half the battle won!