As a foster parent, I've had to be extra vigilant in seeking external help because of the potential complexities arising from his past. Counseling has been an important outlet for my son to process his feelings and past trauma, and fortunately, the state provides this service which is a great help because it can be expensive. I also ensured I kept close contact with his previous caregivers, to understand his background and any triggers to avoid. It hasn't been easy as there's a lot of Catch-up to do, being a single parent, but thankfully some kind neighbors and friends have stepped in to help where they can, especially when I need a break.
Interactions with the birth family were minimal, and that suited us best because of the toxicity of his previous home life. But it also meant I missed having that immediate support network of family close by. So I made sure to establish a good relationship with teachers and school counselors - they've been a godsend with their insights and help, especially when my son needed extra assistance or had emergencies. I also joined some foster care support groups online; it helps to have other resources and experiences at your fingertips, especially for advice on specific scenarios.
Overall, the challenge remains an ongoing one - it's a journey without a clear endpoint, but with lots of little wins along the way! You learn to take it day by day, celebrating the small achievements, and that itself is rewarding.
What about you, are there any particular challenges that stood out for you during your adoption process, or in the years after?