As a single parent, I can attest to the fact that people often get it wrong about what our lives are like. They assume that because there's no other adult around, we have endless resources and time for ourselves. But in reality, being a sole provider is exhausting. We're not just mothers or fathers; we're CEOs of households, managing schedules, meals, finances, and everything else our kids need. And while it's true that people think they know what we do , they rarely glimpse the behind-the-scenes struggle to balance work, parenting, and personal responsibilities.
In fact, being a single parent often feels like having multiple identities - "worker," "parent," and maybe even "caregiver" for aging parents of our own. It's hard to get people to see beyond that first role. They think we're always up for a last-minute dinner invite or to join a spontaneous social event, when in reality, we might be juggling multiple jobs just to keep the lights on. Some of my friends have even taken on the nickname 'tax collectors' because the first question anyone asks them is usually something like: 'How much are you paying for childcare?'
As we navigate these complex roles and responsibilities, it's refreshing when someone finally sees beyond all that - to get glimpses of who I am outside being a parent. But even then, it's essential to remind them that my life doesn't have seasons; the demands on me remain constant regardless of whether schools are in session or if there are breaks. It's always a juggling act. However, knowing that doesn't take away the fact that someone sees beyond all that.