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I’m curious to hear how everyone's coping with solo parenting and what strategies you use! I find it really challenging some days and was hoping to hear others' experiences and picks me ups for those hard days.
As a background, I separated from my partner almost 2 years ago and have been going it alone ever since - my little one was only 1 then, so it's all shes ever known. It’s just the two of us most of the time which has definitely had its pros and cons - any other solo parenters in a similar situation? I've always tried to focus on the positives of being a solo parent - like not having to negotiate decisions or step up the communication game with an unresponsive partner, but man, some days are sooo much harder than others!
The biggest challenges for me are:
1. Constant exhaustion - it’s relentless! There's no one to tag in when you're at your wit's end and the thought of having another adult around sometimes feels like a far-off dream.
2. Guilt - I feel so much guilt that my little one doesn't have a dad figure actively in her life, and also for not being able to give her all the attention she needs sometimes. She's incredibly active and social so I struggle with not having the energy to keep up or provide her with enough friends her age to play with regularly
3. Loneliness - I'm an introvert but find the lack of adult conversation, especially on weekends, pretty tough. It would be nice to have someone around to bounce ideas off, share the load and just have some company sometimes! Especially cause all my friends are coupled up so it gets a little lonely at times.
4. The fear - Am I making the right decisions solo? Am I doing OK as a parent without another adult's input? Am I screwing my kid up haha! It's unnerving sometimes to think you're solely responsible for this tiny human and their entire world...
Anyway, would love to hear other people's experiences - the good and the bad. And what gets you through those tough moments?!
As a background, I separated from my partner almost 2 years ago and have been going it alone ever since - my little one was only 1 then, so it's all shes ever known. It’s just the two of us most of the time which has definitely had its pros and cons - any other solo parenters in a similar situation? I've always tried to focus on the positives of being a solo parent - like not having to negotiate decisions or step up the communication game with an unresponsive partner, but man, some days are sooo much harder than others!
The biggest challenges for me are:
1. Constant exhaustion - it’s relentless! There's no one to tag in when you're at your wit's end and the thought of having another adult around sometimes feels like a far-off dream.
2. Guilt - I feel so much guilt that my little one doesn't have a dad figure actively in her life, and also for not being able to give her all the attention she needs sometimes. She's incredibly active and social so I struggle with not having the energy to keep up or provide her with enough friends her age to play with regularly
3. Loneliness - I'm an introvert but find the lack of adult conversation, especially on weekends, pretty tough. It would be nice to have someone around to bounce ideas off, share the load and just have some company sometimes! Especially cause all my friends are coupled up so it gets a little lonely at times.
4. The fear - Am I making the right decisions solo? Am I doing OK as a parent without another adult's input? Am I screwing my kid up haha! It's unnerving sometimes to think you're solely responsible for this tiny human and their entire world...
Anyway, would love to hear other people's experiences - the good and the bad. And what gets you through those tough moments?!