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I'd like to share my personal experience as an adult adoptee. I was adopted at the age of two from an abusive situation, so I don't have much memory of my time with my biological mother. My adoptive family told me (and I have verified) that she had severe mental health issues during that timeframe and it wasn't a stable environment.
As I got older and started to look more into my adoption story, I found out about the process that my adoptive parents went through to adopt me. They had to deal with the uncertainty of waiting so long for placement approval, the frustration from not being able to share their expectations (e.g., age of child) with a caseworker that seemed dismissive and unaligned, and later on, the sadness when it turned out my biological mom could care for me despite initial misgivings.
As I got older and started to look more into my adoption story, I found out about the process that my adoptive parents went through to adopt me. They had to deal with the uncertainty of waiting so long for placement approval, the frustration from not being able to share their expectations (e.g., age of child) with a caseworker that seemed dismissive and unaligned, and later on, the sadness when it turned out my biological mom could care for me despite initial misgivings.