We felt like we hit the jackpot with our son. While he's had some challenges, seeing him thrive and knowing we provided him a stable home makes it all worthwhile. We were very fortunate to have a supportive network of friends and family who were encouraging and curious about our decision to adopt an older child.
Some had questions about the process, the costs involved, and the potential challenges, which we were happy to answer. We chose to adopt through the local foster system, which meant the process was fairly straightforward and cost-free, though the wait could've been longer. It helped that our close ones knew we'd always wanted a large family, and this was the path we chose to achieve that.
I'm curious to hear about others' experiences too - was there any pushback or skepticism you faced from your inner circle when considering adoption? Or perhaps the opposite - an enthusiastic embrace of your decision?
In general, most of my close friends and family were supportive of our decision to adopt. They knew how much we wanted a bigger family and felt this was a great way to achieve that. Luckily, there wasn't any negative backlash or strange questions, which I heard can sometimes happen with adoption.
That said, it was mostly met with cautious optimism, if that makes sense? Some of my older relatives would approach the topic carefully, almost tiptoeing around it as if they weren't sure how we'd react to certain questions. They'd politely enquire about the 'why' and 'how' but kept a safe distance from the conversation, perhaps unsure of adoption procedures or sensitive to the emotional aspects.
But there were also others - bold aunties in particular - who'd straight up ask very personal questions, like "Won't you worry about the genetic makeup of your child?" or "Do you think the birth parents will come back for them?". Those were amusing moments, and we'd cheerfully educate them on the wholesomeness of adoption culture.
Overall though, everyone was curious but supportive, which we appreciate till today. They've been inclusive of our entire family, welcoming our daughter home with open arms despite the unconventional route we took to grow our numbers! So we're pretty grateful for that.
It's great to hear you had such a positive experience with your extended circle! Those personal questions can definitely be entertaining - and education moments wrapped in one.
It's heartwarming they've been so welcoming of your growing family, even if some needed a little guidance on the nuances of adoption.
I find it fascinating how varied everyone's experiences are - the processes, the reactions from others, the whole journey! I wonder what advice you'd give to someone considering adoption now, having gone through it yourself? Or perhaps a future Bookworm Jr might ask for some tips one day!