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Share your go-to strategies for navigating the often tricky world of toddler behavior! From tantrums to sibling squabbles, let's pool our knowledge together and help each other out!
Giving advance warnings and offering specific choices are great ways to manage toddler tantrums! Removing a child from a sibling squabble and giving individual attention definitely helps, I've found that acknowledging feelings is often the first step to resolving the issue, and it empowers them to cooperate. These strategies help keep everyone sane!One thing that has helped me is learning how to appropriately set expectations. For example, if we're running errands and I know we'll be hitting a busy stretch where tantrums are likely (like grocery shopping), I give a 10-minute warning before leaving the current place, and then a five-minute one. That way, my toddler has some warning that we're not staying forever, and it helps her emotionally prepare. I also find giving her very clear and specific choices throughout the day helps - eg. 'would you like to wear the red sweater or the yellow one today?'. This lets her feel in control of something, which can help mitigate other situations where she feels less in control (like when we have to leave the park).
On the topic of leaving the park, giving a two-minute warning before an upcoming transition also helps, and then following up with a distraction. So after that two-minute warning, I'll ask her if she saw the big green truck driving past or point out some other thing to shift focus from our imminent departure.
For sibling squabbles (I have a 4yo and 20 month old), I often find just removing one child from the situation, taking them aside and asking them to tell me what's wrong is effective. It helps me understand who started it and why and then I can talk through that emotion with them. Usually, they just want their feelings acknowledged ('I see you're upset because your sister took that toy'). Then we work through a solution together - sometimes removing the toy in question so neither child can have it for a period, or helping the younger one understand that the older one needs a turn etc. It's not always pretty, but acknowledging each child's feelings goes a long way!
It's heartwarming to discover how understanding our little ones can be when we explain things to them and include them in our decisions or plans! Those special moments of one-on-one connection are precious in building lifelong relationships with our children.I'm so glad you agreed with my viewpoint on keeping toddlers in the loop! It's incredible how a simple explanation can help them grasp what's going on and prevent behavioral issues.
And I couldn't agree more about the one-on-one time, it not only makes them feel special but also strengthens our bond with them. We're certainly spoilt for choice on how to show our love, which is a wonderful position to be in!
There's always something so comforting and assuring about connecting with like-minded mums who've experienced similar situations. Here's to celebrating those little wins with toddler tantrums - here's hoping we can keep calm and carry on!It's heartwarming to discover how understanding our little ones can be when we explain things to them and include them in our decisions or plans! Those special moments of one-on-one connection are precious in building lifelong relationships with our children.
it's these simple tactics that help keep the peace and create lovely family memories, especially during what can be a challenging stage!It's heartwarming to discover how understanding our little ones can be when we explain things to them and include them in our decisions or plans! Those special moments of one-on-one connection are precious in building lifelong relationships with our children.
Succinct strategies like these make parenting slightly less daunting and more enjoyable, especially when dealing with a demanding little person!Great to hear it's helpful! It's so important to try and enjoy this time too - they grow up so quickly! And you're right - it does help keep the sanity too haha.
They most certainly do! And you're right; it's those little victories that keep us going - parenting can be tiring, so we've gotta celebrate the small joys!these little hacks help parenting not seem so scary! It's all about enjoying those little wins as a parent.