Hello there! Congratulations on your decision to adopt!
I don't have personal experiences to share, being a natural-born citizen myself, but I know of a few resources adopted children and their families might find helpful.
The book *The Open Adoption Experience: A Parents Guide* by Gloria Highes offers practical advice on how to create a robust triangle relationship among parents and children in open adoptions. It normalizes the unique and complex emotions that come with the territory and suggests good ways to facilitate communication.
Also, *Parenting An Adopted Child* by Jane E. Kinzie is worth a read. It helps parents understand the particular needs of adopted children and provides insights into the challenges they may face as the parents of an adoptive child.
Local podcast The Art of Parenting has some great episodes that might be of interest. In one episode, hosts Ally & Mel interview their friend Elaine, who is an adoptee, and talk about the sensitive topic of identifying with your birth family vs. the family you're placed with - an interesting listen!
Remember, every child is unique, and so is your relationship with them. I wish you all the best as you embark on this wonderful journey!